Everyone is brought up on a set of values, usually determined by one or more of the following factors: family, cultural, ethnic, religious, or social beliefs. These values relate to how we should carry ourselves in the world and how we deal with others. Our caregivers convey both explicit and implicit messages to us from the moment we are born through behavior, language, emotional regulation – even sex.
When you think back on your formative years, do you remember conversations about sex (either between others in your family or directly with you)? Have you been greeted by adults to ask them with questions? Has sexuality been normalized as part of being human? Or was sex considered taboo or shameful? Maybe it was not discussed at all (which is a message in and of itself).
It is not uncommon for a conflict to arise between your upbringing and your feelings about your sexuality. It can be difficult to reconcile the two. How you do it is as unique as you are.
At Maze, we treat everyone who enters our practice holistically with respect for the diversity of backgrounds and belief systems. We can help you create your own values that will allow you to feel sexually safe without compromise. If this confuses you or has problems between you, contact us for a free telephone consultation.